口述：帅哥一夜情后竟然感染艾滋病

口述：帅哥一夜情后竟然感染艾滋病
http://www.sina.com.cn 2009年09月26日00:09 燕赵晚报
　　房爱说：“千万不要搞一夜情！一夜情毁了我一生！”

　　房爱说：“艾滋病让我懂得珍惜现在的一切！”

　　房爱说：“我的微笑发自内心。既然已经是现实，就要从容去面对！”

　　房爱说：“感谢我们的政府，政府给了我们艾滋病人太多的关爱！”

　　一个高高大大、帅气十足的男孩，脸上始终挂着微笑。谁会想到，他是一个艾滋病感染者。为了提醒更多的人警惕艾滋病，他给自己起的化名，叫房爱(防艾)。

　　我不能毁了人家的幸福

　　8时30分上班、联系客户、吃中午饭、联系客户、下班，11月26日，房爱又度过了自己普通的一天。他不知道，这样的日子对他来说还有多少。

　　26日下班后，妈妈又打来电话，问他“身体好不好”。妈妈的问候有些凄凉，房爱笑着安慰妈妈说：“我很好，身体比以前还强呢。”

　　妈妈的嘱咐让房爱想起了前几天向他示爱的那个漂亮女孩。如果可以恋爱、结婚，妈妈该多高兴……

　　房爱今年刚刚24岁，谈恋爱本是再正常不过的事。然而前几天，当那个漂亮女孩向他表示好感时，他坚决地拒绝了。因为他知道，自己不可能再有结婚的权利。客观地讲，女孩的条件非常好，但房爱说：“我不能毁了人家一生的幸福。”

　　在感染艾滋病之前，房爱曾经想过，为了父母，可以改变自己的“同志”倾向——结婚，生孩子。可是，这个想法破灭了。

　　房爱说，因为长得帅气，单位有很多人给他介绍对象。开始时，他觉得自己根本不喜欢女孩，所以总拒绝，许多男同事因此都说他“有病”。因为是家里唯一的男孩，爸爸和妈妈也总催促他找个对象。慢慢地，不结婚的信念开始动摇。就在他正准备谈个女朋友时，艾滋病的厄运降临了。

　　“419”害了我一生

　　去年12月份房爱被查出感染了艾滋病时，他没有惊讶。房爱说，潜意识中，他觉得这天总会来，可没想到这么快。

　　房爱的潜意识，来自他近两年多的“性乱”。他说，在山东上大学的几年里，他都属于“禁欲主义者”，虽然对班上的同性有好感，但从来没有表示过，更没有过性经历。毕业了，上班了，欲望强烈时，他开始找有好感的同性。

　　这两年，他的性伙伴比较多，一个月换一个，几天换一个，一个星期换几个，这样的频率让房爱的性伙伴数量迅速上升。终于，房爱发现，自己的扁桃体总发炎，而且经常感冒。“这可能是患艾滋病的预兆。”在报纸上，房爱读懂了身体给他的信息。

　　抽血检测、等待、再抽血检测、确定，房爱说，在防疫站经过了这样一个过程，他终于被打入了地狱中。不过，他已经做好了迎接最坏结果的打算，他没有被击倒。

　　“你要419吗？”房爱清清楚楚记得这句话，那是一个“同志”在网上聊天时发给他的。后来他知道，所谓“419”，是同性性行为的暗语，意思是“一夜情”。“就是那次‘一夜情’，害了我的一生。”说这话时，房爱的眼里似乎有悔意。

　　那个“同志网友”给他留下了电话，“联络、开房、疯狂、拜拜”，这个程序，也是房爱被打入地狱的过程。这也是后来房爱才知道的。因为到防疫站做检查时，他也遇到了那个网友。一瞬间，他明白了一切。

　　“‘一夜情’太可怕，太危险了！无论是同性之间还是异性之间！”房爱说。

　　经理吃掉了我的剩饭

　　“经理吃我剩饭的那一刻，我有些呆住了。”房爱说。

　　那是一次同事聚餐，该吃主食了，房爱将自己面前的米饭吃了半碗，便放下了。一旁的经理见状问：“你还吃吗？”见房爱摇头，经理丝毫没有犹豫地端起了那半碗饭，吃了起来。房爱说，他看到了其他知情同事惊愕的目光。那时，已经有同事知道了他的事。

　　在获知自己感染艾滋病后，房爱将经过原原本本地告诉了自己所在单位的经理。房爱说，那时，他准备听经理说：“你去财务部结算你的工资，走吧！”即使是那样，他也毫无怨言，因为经理是个好人，对他很照顾。如果经理让他走，也是情理之中的事。

　　可是，经理在经过几分钟的思考后说：“我了解这种病，如果你身体条件允许的话，你可以在单位继续干下去。我会替你保密的！”开始，他也以为经理的宽容是权宜之计，直到那次经理吃了他的剩饭，房爱才感觉，经理对他的接受发自内心。

　　经理的宽容和接纳，让单位其他同事的歧视态度收敛了许多。

　　房爱说，社会对他的关爱，还体现在防疫站监护医生的态度上。就在前几天，他和监护医生电话里聊天时随口说，早餐要喝奶。监护医生立刻表示：给房爱买几箱牛奶送过去。这让房爱感到心里热乎乎的。

　　在新华书店，房爱还买到了《艾滋病防治条例》。这个《条例》今年3月1日已经实施了。《条例》中，对艾滋病病人的就医、入学、就业、婚姻等方方面面都做了规定，国家用法律保证了艾滋病病人的很多权利。“我感激我的政府。”房爱说。

　　我愿意是最后一个受害者

　　“你恨那个传染你疾病的人吗？”记者问房爱。“不恨。”房爱的回答没有丝毫犹豫。

　　房爱说，他想对那个传染给他艾滋病的人说：“如果以前你不知道自己患病，现在知道了，请自爱！不要伤害别人了！如果你知道自己患病，还故意传染了我，那请你停止这种行为，我愿意是最后一个受害者。”房爱说，他之所以不恨那个人，是因为他觉得，自己的行为也有错误，最后有这样的结果也不奇怪，他要为自己的错误“赎罪”，所以，现在，房爱开始宣传“防艾”，用自己的亲身经历。

　　说起自己目前和以后的生活，房爱都是一脸微笑，乐观写在他的脸上。

　　“面对艾滋病，你还能笑得这么灿烂，这让我佩服！”记者对房爱表示钦佩后，房爱答道：“朋友们都说，能看得出，你的微笑发自内心。”

　　房爱说，即使在电话中妈妈对他的病表示极大担忧时，他依然能笑着安慰妈妈；即使父亲在电话中良久无语，他也能边说边笑和父亲说上几分钟，直到电话那边的父亲也传来笑声。

　　“横竖都是一个结果，何必整天愁眉苦脸呢？既然事实已经摆在面前，就必须有勇气去面对。”房爱的乐观情绪，影响了他的一些病友。现在，一些病友有想不开的问题，总愿意来找他。而不知不觉间，房爱发现自己开导别人的能力在增强。“我可以当老师了。”

　　“想自杀。”在“同志”网上，许多病友这样告诉房爱。每当这时，房爱总是耐心地开导他们。给他们讲自己的经历和想法。为了不让更多的人遇到艾滋病这个魔鬼，在“同志”们中间，在网站上，在“同志”聚集地，在一切有可能的地方，房爱有意识地去宣讲“防艾”知识。“我不知道我的宣传和对别人的开导会不会有效果，但我要去做。”房爱说。

　　“一夜情”真的很危险

　　“一夜情”害了房爱，我们不知道那个和房爱“一夜情”的人是否有意。但我们终于知道，“一夜情”真的很危险。

　　“一个艾滋病病人有意去找人发生关系，又不采取安全措施，那么那个和他发生关系的人被感染的几率是很高的。”石市疾病预防控制中心性病艾滋病防治所所长李生奎说。

　　虽然没人对社会“一夜情”情况做过统计，但“一夜情”已经成为一种社会现象是不争的事实。网络上众多的一夜情交友网站、聊天室，成为人们寻找“一夜情”的便捷场所，一些酒吧等公共场合，也开始为“一夜情”提供条件。

　　也许有人会这样想，“一夜情”的双方都不是“职业的”，所以应该健康且安全。但实际情况是，你和一个性伙伴发生了“一夜情”，这个性伙伴在外面可能还有其他性伙伴。所有性病和艾滋病，都可能通过这种途径传播。

　　李所长认为，由于“一夜情”的发生带有偶然性，男女双方一般很少采取必要防护措施。更由于彼此对对方既往的性经历和健康状况几乎一无所知，因此这“一次”就很可能沾染性病甚至艾滋病，这，众多的临床统计已经证实。

　　另一方面，由于“一夜情”一般都是在极度亢奋的状态下进行的，男方和女方都容易受到身体伤害。这更使得性病和艾滋病的感染几率增大。

　　李生奎所长说，异性如此，同性就更加危险，特别是男男性接触，由于在性接触过程中，直肠黏膜特别容易破裂，所以感染艾滋病等疾病的可能性更大。

　　李所长认为，要避免被艾滋病或其他性病感染，性活跃期的男女们除了洁身自爱，没有更好的解决方法。如果实在禁不住性的诱惑，就一定要使用安全套。

Oral: handsome guy actually infected with HIV after one-night stand
http://www.sina.com.cn 2009 Nian 09 Yue 26 Ri 00:09 Yanzhao Evening News
FANG Ai said: "Do not engage in one-night stand! One-night stands ruined my life!"

FANG Ai said: "AIDS, let me know how to cherish everything now!"

FANG Ai said: "I smile from the heart. Now that is reality, we must calmly face!"

FANG Ai said: "Thanks to our government, the Government has given us a lot of care of AIDS!"

A substantially high, handsome boy, his face is always wearing a smile. Who would have thought, he was an HIV infected person. To remind more people to guard against AIDS, he played a pseudonym for himself, called the Housing love (AIDS Prevention).

I can not destroy other people's happiness

8:30 to go to work, contact customers, eat lunch, contact customers, work, 11 26, room love and spent his ordinary day. He did not know that this day how much for him.

26, after work, my mother called again and asked him "good health not good." Her mother's greeting some desolate, the Housing love comforted her mother with a smile, said: "I'm fine, physically stronger than before it."

Asked the mother to let the Housing love reminded him a few days ago that's love for a beautiful girl. If you can fall in love, get married, how happy my mother in the ... ...

Love this room has just 24 years old, fall in love again this is a normal thing to do. However, a few days ago, when that beautiful girl expresses her liking to him, he firmly refused. Because he knows he will never again have the right to marry. Objectively speaking, the girl's condition is very good, but rooms often said: "I can not ruin the happiness of people's life."

Before HIV infection, the Housing love once thought, to parents, can change their own "comrades" tendency - marriage, children. However, the idea collapsed.

FANG Ai said that because of looks handsome, the unit, many people object to his description. Initially, he felt he did not like girls, so the total refusal, and many male colleagues, therefore said he was "sick." Because it is the only boy at home, father and mother are always urged him to find the object. Slowly, not to marry the belief begins to waver. As he was preparing to talk about a girlfriend, the AIDS fate arrived.

"419" ruined my life

Housing in December last year, Love was found infected with AIDS, he was not surprised. Housing fond of saying, the subconscious, he felt that day will come, I did not expect so soon.

Housing love unconscious, from his past two years and more "sexual promiscuity." He said that in Shandong college years, he belonged to the "ascetic", although there is a good impression on the class of the same sex, but never indicated, and no sexual experience. Graduated, to work, strong desire, he began looking for a good impression of the same sex.

The past two years, his sexual partners are more a month for a few days for one a week for a few, so that the frequency to let the Housing love a rapid increase in the number of sexual partners. Finally, the Housing love found, their general inflammation of the tonsils, and often cold. "This could be a harbinger of AIDS." In the newspaper, the Housing love to read the body to give him information.

Blood test, wait, and then blood test to determine, the Housing Love said that in the epidemic prevention station through such a process, he finally into a hell. However, he has already done the worst possible outcome to meet the intention, he was not knocked down.

"You have to do 419?" Housing love clearly remember this sentence, it was a "comrade" in online chats sent to him. Later, he knows that so-called "419" is a code word for homosexual sex, which means "one-night stand." "Is that 'one-night stand' to kill my entire life." Say this, the eyes of love seems to be room remorse.

That "comrade netizen" left him with a phone, "Contact, open room, crazy, worship," this program is also room to hell love the process. This is also the room was to love to know. Because the epidemic prevention station for check-ups, he also encountered that User. Moment, he understood everything.

" 'One-night stand' is too frightening, too dangerous! Both between same-sex or heterosexual!" The Housing fond of saying.

Managers eat my leftovers

"Managers to eat my leftovers of that moment, I am a little dumbfounded." Room Love said.

It was a staff dinner, the food staple, and love of his room in front of a bowl of rice to eat, they put down. Off to one side of the manager rushed out of the question: "Do you still eat it?" See the room love shaking his head, the manager did not hesitate to reach for the then half-bowl too, to eat up. Room, liked to say he saw the eyes of other knowledgeable colleagues in dismay. At that time, some colleagues have to know something of his.

　　在获知自己感染艾滋病后，房爱将经过原原本本地告诉了自己所在单位的经理。 Housing fond of saying, when he was prepared to listen to manager, said: "You go to the Finance Department settlement of your pay, let's go!" Even so, he relied on because the manager is a good man, for he took great care. If the manager let him go, but also makes sense thing.

However, after a few minutes thinking manager said: "I understand this disease, if your physical condition permits, you may be in the unit to continue. I will be kept confidential for you!" At first, he thought that the manager's tolerance is a temporary, until that manager ate his leftovers, room to love feeling, the manager of his acceptance of the heart.

Managers of tolerance and acceptance, so that units of other colleagues convergence of a number of discriminatory attitudes.

Room, liked to say of his love of society, but also reflected in the epidemic prevention stations guardianship of doctors on the set. Just the past few days, he and his custody a doctor over the phone chatting casually, breakfast should be drinking milk. Medical care immediately, said: Leave room they want to buy a few boxes of milk delivery in the past. This makes room feel loved and warm heart.

In the Xinhua Bookstore, the Housing love also bought the "AIDS prevention regulations." The "Regulations" March 1 this year, has been implemented. "Regulations" in pairs of AIDS patients for medical care, education, employment, marriage, etc. have done all aspects of the provisions of the state of law guarantees many rights of AIDS patients. "I am grateful to my government." Room Love said.

I would like to be the last victim of a

"Do you hate the person that infectious diseases do you have?" Asked the Housing love. "Do not hate." Room of love to answer without the slightest hesitation.

Room, liked to say he wanted to give him that transmission of AIDS, said: "If you do not know that he is sick before, now know, please self-love! Do not hurt someone else! If you know that he is sick, but also deliberately infected me , then ask you to stop such acts, I would like to be the last victim. "room Love says he does not hate that person, because he feels that his own behavior a mistake, the final result is not such a strange, He wanted for their own mistakes, "Atonement", so, now, the Housing love started to raise awareness, "AIDS Prevention", with their own personal experience.

Talk about their current and future life, housing is a look of love a smile, optimism, written in his face.

"Faced with AIDS, can you smile so bright that I admire!" Press love to express my admiration to the room, the room Love replied: "My friends say, can see your smile from the heart. "

Housing love that even on the phone to his sick mother, expressed great concern, he was still able to laugh comforting mother; even if the father on the phone a long time silent, he can laugh and his father said as he has said that a few minutes, until the phone side of the father came laughter.

"If they had a result, why do all day long frown? Since the facts are now in the face, we must have the courage to face." Room of love optimism, affecting some of his fellow patients. Now, some patients have problems take things too hard, the total willingness to come to him. But we knew it, the Housing love found himself the ability to enlighten others is growing. "I can be a teacher has."

"If you want commit suicide." In "comrade" online, and many patients have told the Housing love. Whenever this time, the Housing love is always patient and enlighten them. To them talk about their experiences and ideas. In order to prevent more people experiencing AIDS devil, in the "comrades" were among the site, in the "comrades" gathered, in all possible areas, the Housing love consciously try to preach, "AIDS Prevention" knowledge. "I do not know my advocacy and enlighten others will be effective, but I want to do." Room Love said.

"One-night stand" is really very dangerous

"One-night stand" harm to the Housing love, we do not know that and the Housing love "one-night stand" whether the person intended. However, we finally know, "one-night stand" really very dangerous.

"One AIDS patient who intends to look for a relationship, they do not take security measures, then the relationship between that, and he will have a chance of a person is infected is high." Stone City, Center for Disease Control and Prevention, director of STD and AIDS prevention and control, said Li Kui.

Though I never heard of the society, "one-night stand" situation has calculated, but the "one-night stand" has become a social phenomenon is an indisputable fact. Network, a large number of one-night stand dating sites, chat rooms, as people look for "one-night stand," a convenient place, a number of bars and other public occasions, also started a "one-night stand" provides the conditions.

Some people may think, "one-night stand" and that neither side is "professional", so it should be healthy and safe. But the reality is, you and a sexual partner had "one-night stand," a sexual partner on the outside there may be other sexual partners. Of all sexually transmitted diseases and AIDS, may be transmitted in this way.

Li Suozhang that because "one-night stand" with the occurrence of chance, both men and women rarely take the necessary protective measures. Moreover, because each of each other's past sexual experience and little knowledge of health condition, so this "one" is very likely contaminated with sexually transmitted diseases and even AIDS, which, many of the clinical statistics has been demonstrated.

On the other hand, due to "one-night stand" generally are carried out under the state of extreme excitement, the husband and wife are vulnerable to physical injury. This brought the risk of sexually transmitted diseases and HIV infection increases.

Li Kui Director said that the opposite sex so gay even more dangerous, especially MSM, because of sexual contact process, the rectal mucosa particularly vulnerable to rupture, so infections are more likely to diseases such as AIDS.

Li Suozhang that to avoid AIDS or other sexually transmitted infections, sexually active men and women who tried to stay apart, there is no better solution. If you can not help but sexual temptation, it is necessary to use condoms.