现在是6月22日早4点。昨天白天睡的太多，半夜醒来，夜阑人静，想起了昨晚看CCTV-12“大家说法”报道得那个住猪圈的83岁老太太，一个人在不足5平米的废旧猪圈里住着，靠捡垃圾生活，吃饭只喝大米粥，还告诉记者那一小锅米粥“得喝三四天”。她的两个儿子有空置的老房子，更有空置的新楼房，而老人却不得不住猪圈。她含辛茹苦养大五儿一女，儿孙满堂，却不得不靠捡垃圾为生。
怎么能不为老人的遭遇感到不解与震惊呢?更令我不解与震惊的是她的态度。记者问她“为什么生活在这里？”，她的回答是——“住习惯了！”当记者与村干部碰到她大儿媳妇，想解决她的生活问题时，老母亲选择了离开。显然，她不想因为自己的困难影响别人，麻烦别人，也不想因为儿女们的不孝影响他们的名誉。
她对生活无所欲、无所求，活的如此平淡；对非人待遇没有一点怨恨，给予不孝子孙们极大的宽容；她甚至在别人为她打抱不平时，都不愿意麻烦儿女，不愿意影响他们的名声，这是多么伟大的母亲！
当然，这位母亲的遭遇是一个个案，但是，类似这位老母亲的遭遇我想也不少。我们的母亲是多么富有忍耐心，我们的人民是多么能忍耐，对非人的生活选择接受，对不公的待遇选择忍受，对儿女的不孝选择宽容，对他人的帮助选择回避。
在西方发达国家，会发生这样的事吗？在西方人看来，我想这又是一个人权问题，但是，我想他们更不能理解老母亲为什么如此能忍耐，如此能宽容！比起他们只要觉得工资和福利少，就可以上街罢工游行，他们活的确实很有尊严。
我深深为这位母亲特别能忍耐、特别能宽容、特别能叫苦的精神感到震惊！我也理解为什么温总理会对官员们说“我们的人民特别能理解政府”。忍耐、宽容与大度，无疑是伟大的，但是，也得有个度。人要善待别人，更要善待自己，放弃自尊和权利的忍耐、宽容与大度是对自己的折磨，是对别人错误的纵容，是对不良、不法行为的支持。我们要承担我们应该承担的责任，我们也应享有或主张我们应有的权利。我们要善待生命，好好的活着，更要站着活着，要有尊严的活着，否则，我们会遭受更多的不公平，我们对和谐社会的期待会更长。
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重庆商报5月13日报道北碚区三圣镇毛安村的汪亏碧老太太，膝下有五儿一女，本该安享晚年，但与三个儿子生活在一起的她，如今却睡在猪圈与猪共眠已两个月之久。
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教育行者发表于：2008-4-2 14:33
Friday, March 28, 2008
An old woman living in the pig pen
A few days ago, I was watching TV after supper. The program on CCTV-12 was about an old woman living in a pig pen.
The old lady is 83. If you have not known the life she is living, you will think she is a lucky woman. She has four sons and two daughters. Each of them have got married and have had their own children. She has had at least one great grandson. They are all living a decent life
Don’t you think the old lady is lucky?In fact, she is not at all.Two of her sons are not living in the same village; and the first two sons do. They each have built two or three-storied buildings, so their bungalows were empty. That is, no one was living in the two houses owning to her two sons. But the 83-year –old woman cannot live in the two houses. She has to live by the side of pigs. For six years he has lived in the hut built to raise pigs. None of her offsprings has ever come to have a look at her or to give her some money or food. She has to collect trash and sell to get some money to live on.Sometimes she has to eat two meals a day!
My dear readers, do you still think she is lucky? I do not think so.
One of the reasons why she is living such a life is that her eldest daughter-in-law has been thinking that the old lady owed her a lot. The old lady gave the most of what she had to the second son when they began to live in different houses. Since then the daughter have had grudge against the old woman and treated her husband’s mother like dirt.
We are trying to build a harmonious society. But many old people are living such a life. They are living a poor life; they have no descendens to visit them
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