警戒：男“同志” 乱性染艾滋
今年3月份，29岁的孙海(化名)被确诊为艾滋病感染者，十年的同性恋生活画上句号。11月29日，孙海对记者说：“现在整个人都崩溃了，像是散了架的行尸走肉。这几个月里，十年的各种画面就跟放电影一样，一幕幕全出来了：我第一个喜欢的人、第一次发生关系的人、还有海泊河公园的同性世界……”
A 19岁那年，他第一次跟陌生男人发生了关系
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孙海19岁那年从东北来到青岛。他戴着帽子和眼镜，身材略胖，皮肤很好。孙海说他从14岁就开始做“同志”了——
—这些故事说起来已经很遥远了，跟别的“同志”一样，我对女生没感觉，看到喜欢的男生心跳加速。之前谈过一个很好的朋友，那会年纪小，不知道怎么回事，就是两个人喜欢玩，吃饭、睡觉都在一起。19岁那年我独自一人来到青岛，认识了更多人，才知道了所谓的同性恋。
一个人在外地生活，寂寞永远大于快乐。再加上我这种特殊嗜好，身边朋友不是很多。我在工作的酒店附近租了个房子，晚上没事的时候就去海泊河公园转悠，才知道那个地方简直是同性恋的天堂，我的第一次也是在那里。
我还记得，那天我去上厕所，总觉得有人在偷偷看我，不管去哪他都跟着。我当时很紧张，但心里却又莫名激动。后来他拉住我，问我在哪工作、多大之类的话。我应该也是喜欢他的，跟他很聊得来，我们聊了差不多3个小时。后来他就提出来，说想去旅馆休息休息。听到这话我心里虽然害怕但还是去了，其实还有点小小的期盼。
那会儿自己年纪小，什么都不懂，进行的时候也没有采取什么保护措施。
“那是你的第一次?之后什么感觉?”
是，我的第一次。除了刺激，没什么特殊感觉。
B 有自己的暗号，最常用的是“现在几点了?
19岁的孙海因为年轻总是能吸引很多“同志”的眼光。从第一次之后，他尝到了同性之间的乐趣，“之后我就经常去，去找自己喜欢的人。”
“过去怎么找?难道一下子就能看出来吗?
孙海笑了笑：“这就是‘同志’之间的感觉了，很轻易就能察觉到。而且去的时间长了我慢慢摸索出了一些规律和已经被默认的暗号。比如比较常用的问题是‘现在几点了?’如果这个人能回答你，就说明他对你也有感觉。如果把头甩开，那他对你就没兴趣，你直接走就行。总之，不管你问什么，都要看对方的态度，没有强迫的。”
成了那里的常客，孙海也谈过几个固定的对象，但绝大多数都是“一夜情”。“你要是现在问我，总共跟多少人发生关系?多少次?我真记不得了，有时候间隔时间很短，有时候间隔长些。那是个别人无法理解的世界，在那个世界里，还有一种默契，结束之后彼此不留联系方式，不问对方的任何信息，就当是陌生人走开。当然也有彼此特别喜欢的，以后就成了固定对象。”
“我知道你很痛苦，可是无法理解那种感觉。”
“呵呵，只有‘同志‘才能真正理解。那里什么年纪的都有，最大的甚至70多岁。有两件事到现在让我印象最深刻：一是亲眼看几个人一起做，这两个进行完，后面的排队跟上，我们就在旁边看，后来才知道这太正常了。还有一件事，厕所是等待伴侣最好的地方，在下雪天还会有人等在那儿，他们太压抑了。”
C 查出艾滋病，他崩溃了甚至想到报复
打工的酒店、海泊河公园，这是孙海生活的两个重心。转眼到了29岁，这十年生活是怎么过来的?孙海一笑：“浑浑噩噩，不知怎么十年就过去了。”
“是今年查出艾滋病的吗?”
听到这两个字，孙海的笑容戛然而止，他低下头讲起三个月的痛苦生活——
—2009年的3月份，我记得清清楚楚，姜姐(青岛市疾病预防控制中心艾滋病防治科主任姜珍霞，他们都习惯称她为姜姐)通知我被确诊为艾滋病感染者。当时一听，整个人都蒙了，最害怕的事情还是发生了。后来的三个月我辞了工作，把自己关在家里，不停地睡，睡着了就不用去想这些了，那段时间整个人都崩溃了，像是散了架的行尸走肉。这三个月里，十年的各种画面就跟放电影一样，一幕幕全出来了，我第一个喜欢的人、第一次发生关系的人、还有海泊河公园的同性世界……
“你后悔吗?检讨过吗?”
说不后悔是假的，但同性并不是我们自己能控制的，这是一种怪癖。真正后悔的是为什么当时那么放纵自己?为什么没有采取安全措施?你知道吗?那段时间我还特别矛盾，一会回儿想那些跟我发生关系的人，想想会是谁的错，然后去报复他们。一会儿又拿着电话发愣，要不要告诉他们，让他们也去做做检查。最终我什么也没敢去做。
知道结果的那段时间是艾滋病患者最难熬、最痛苦的阶段，想开了就会重新踏上健康之路，反之做出极端行为的也不少。青岛市疾病预防控制中心艾滋病防治科主任姜珍霞成了孙海的救命草，三个月她去了十几次，送吃的喝的，给他打电话聊天，终于把他从绝望中拉了回来。
现在的孙海正在接受药物治疗，情况控制得不错。他定期去姜姐那跟其他艾滋病患者聊天、交流经验。
“这些事情家人知道吗?”
“怎么开口跟他们说啊，至今什么都不知道。每次打电话，我都给妈妈说在这很好，工作很顺利、身体也很好，让他们放心。之前我还想过，差不多就回家，听家人的话结婚生子，但现在自己变成了这样，这些愿望恐怕不能实现了。我现在只想控制好病情，别复发就行。另外，我还想通过你们报纸跟那些‘同志’们说句话，一定要洁身自好，采取安全措施。”
◎新闻背景
2009年12月1日是第22个艾滋病日，今年的主题是“遏制艾滋，履行承诺”。青岛市卫生局公布最新数据：2009年1月～11月，青岛市发现并报告HIV感染者/艾滋病病人数量较2008年同期上升35.56%，年龄最小19岁，最大53岁。性传播依然是艾滋病传播的主要途径。值得关注的是，男性性接触传播明显上升，占今年发现的感染者总数的42.62%。青岛市自2005年首次发现同性性传播病例以来，同性性接触传播所占比例已经从之前的5.26%上升到42.62%，4年上升了8倍多。
目前全市总共有39个艾滋病免费自愿咨询检测点，成为发现艾滋病感染者的重要途径.
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今年3月份，29歲的孫海(化名)被確診為艾滋病感染者，十年的同性戀生活畫上句號。 11月29日，孫海對記者說：“現在整個人都崩潰了，像是散了架的行屍走肉。這幾個月裡，十年的各種畫面就跟放電影一樣，一幕幕全出來了：我第一個喜歡的人、第一次發生關係的人、還有海泊河公園的同性世界……”
A 19歲那年，他第一次跟陌生男人發生了關係
法國合成阻斷HIV傳播的分子
孫海19歲那年從東北來到青島。他戴著帽子和眼鏡，身材略胖，皮膚很好。孫海說他從14歲就開始做“同志”了——
—這些故事說起來已經很遙遠了，跟別的“同志”一樣，我對女生沒感覺，看到喜歡的男生心跳加速。之前談過一個很好的朋友，那會年紀小，不知道怎麼回事，就是兩個人喜歡玩，吃飯、睡覺都在一起。 19歲那年我獨自一人來到青島，認識了更多人，才知道了所謂的同性戀。
一個人在外地生活，寂寞永遠大於快樂。再加上我這種特殊嗜好，身邊朋友不是很多。我在工作的酒店附近租了個房子，晚上沒事的時候就去海泊河公園轉悠，才知道那個地方簡直是同性戀的天堂，我的第一次也是在那裡。
我還記得，那天我去上廁所，總覺得有人在偷偷看我，不管去哪他都跟著。我當時很緊張，但心裡卻又莫名激動。後來他拉住我，問我在哪工作、多大之類的話。我應該也是喜歡他的，跟他很聊得來，我們聊了差不多3個小時。後來他就提出來，說想去旅館休息休息。聽到這話我心裡雖然害怕但還是去了，其實還有點小小的期盼。
那會兒自己年紀小，什麼都不懂，進行的時候也沒有採取什麼保護措施。
“那是你的第一次?之後什麼感覺?”
是，我的第一次。除了刺激，沒什麼特殊感覺。
B 有自己的暗號，最常用的是“現在幾點了?
19歲的孫海因為年輕總是能吸引很多“同志”的眼光。從第一次之後，他嚐到了同性之間的樂趣，“之後我就經常去，去找自己喜歡的人。”
“過去怎麼找?難道一下子就能看出來嗎?
孫海笑了笑：“這就是'同志'之間的感覺了，很輕易就能察覺到。而且去的時間長了我慢慢摸索出了一些規律和已經被默認的暗號。比如比較常用的問題是'現在幾點了?'如果這個人能回答你，就說明他對你也有感覺。如果把頭甩開，那他對你就沒興趣，你直接走就行。總之，不管你問什麼，都要看對方的態度，沒有強迫的。”
成了那裡的常客，孫海也談過幾個固定的對象，但絕大多數都是“一夜情”。 “你要是現在問我，總共跟多少人發生關係?多少次?我真記不得了，有時候間隔時間很短，有時候間隔長些。那是個別人無法理解的世界，在那個世界裡，還有一種默契，結束之後彼此不留聯繫方式，不問對方的任何信息，就當是陌生人走開。當然也有彼此特別喜歡的，以後就成了固定對象。”
“我知道你很痛苦，可是無法理解那種感覺。”
“呵呵，只有'同志'才能真正理解。那裡什麼年紀的都有，最大的甚至70多歲。有兩件事到現在讓我印象最深刻：一是親眼看幾個人一起做，這兩個進行完，後面的排隊跟上，我們就在旁邊看，後來才知道這太正常了。還有一件事，廁所是等待伴侶最好的地方，在下雪天還會有人等在那兒，他們太壓抑了。”
C 查出艾滋病，他崩潰了甚至想到報復
打工的酒店、海泊河公園，這是孫海生活的兩個重心。轉眼到了29歲，這十年生活是怎麼過來的?孫海一笑：“渾渾噩噩，不知怎麼十年就過去了。”
“是今年查出艾滋病的嗎?”
聽到這兩個字，孫海的笑容戛然而止，他低下頭講起三個月的痛苦生活——
—2009年的3月份，我記得清清楚楚，姜姐(青島市疾病預防控制中心艾滋病防治科主任姜珍霞，他們都習慣稱她為姜姐)通知我被確診為艾滋病感染者。當時一聽，整個人都蒙了，最害怕的事情還是發生了。後來的三個月我辭了工作，把自己關在家裡，不停地睡，睡著了就不用去想這些了，那段時間整個人都崩潰了，像是散了架的行屍走肉。這三個月裡，十年的各種畫面就跟放電影一樣，一幕幕全出來了，我第一個喜歡的人、第一次發生關係的人、還有海泊河公園的同性世界……
“你後悔嗎?檢討過嗎?”
說不後悔是假的，但同性並不是我們自己能控制的，這是一種怪癖。真正後悔的是為什麼當時那麼放縱自己?為什麼沒有採取安全措施?你知道嗎?那段時間我還特別矛盾，一會回兒想那些跟我發生關係的人，想想會是誰的錯，然後去報復他們。一會兒又拿著電話發楞，要不要告訴他們，讓他們也去做做檢查。最終我什麼也沒敢去做。
知道結果的那段時間是艾滋病患者最難熬、最痛苦的階段，想開了就會重新踏上健康之路，反之做出極端行為的也不少。青島市疾病預防控制中心艾滋病防治科主任姜珍霞成了孫海的救命草，三個月她去了十幾次，送吃的喝的，給他打電話聊天，終於把他從絕望中拉了回來。
現在的孫海正在接受藥物治療，情況控制得不錯。他定期去姜姐那跟其他艾滋病患者聊天、交流經驗。
“這些事情家人知道嗎?”
“怎麼開口跟他們說啊，至今什麼都不知道。每次打電話，我都給媽媽說在這很好，工作很順利、身體也很好，讓他們放心。之前我還想過，差不多就回家，聽家人的話結婚生子，但現在自己變成了這樣，這些願望恐怕不能實現了。我現在只想控制好病情，別復發就行。另外，我還想通過你們報紙跟那些'同志'們說句話，一定要潔身自好，採取安全措施。”
◎新聞背景
2009年12月1日是第22個艾滋病日，今年的主題是“遏制艾滋，履行承諾”。青島市衛生局公佈最新數據：2009年1月～11月，青島市發現並報告HIV感染者/艾滋病病人數量較2008年同期上升35.56%，年齡最小19歲，最大53歲。性傳播依然是艾滋病傳播的主要途徑。值得關注的是，男性性接觸傳播明顯上升，佔今年發現的感染者總數的42.62%。青島市自2005年首次發現同性性傳播病例以來，同性性接觸傳播所佔比例已經從之前的5.26%上升到42.62%，4年上升了8倍多。
目前全市總共有39個艾滋病免費自願諮詢檢測點，成為發現艾滋病感染者的重要途徑.
Warning: Male "comrade" arbitrary nature of HIV-infected
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In March of this year, 29-year-old Hai-(a pseudonym) was diagnosed as HIV-infected persons, ten years of gay life Huashangjuhao. November 29, Sun Hai told reporters: "Now the people have collapsed, such as walking corpses scattered frame. These months, the decade of the various images Jiugen release movie, one scene of full-out : I am the first one who liked the first place such a person, as well as the sea parked River Park homosexual world ... ... "
A 19-year-old that year, his first men who have a relationship with the stranger
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Hai-19 years old and came to Qingdao from the northeast. He was wearing hat and glasses, slightly fat, skin very well. Sun Hai said he started doing at age 14 "comrade" - the
- The story together very long time, and with the other "comrades", I did not feel right girls liked boys heart beat faster. A good friend talked about before, that would be young and do not know how happened, that is, two people like to play, eat, sleep all together. 19 years old and I alone came to Qingdao, I've met more people know the so-called gay.
A person in the field of life, loneliness is always greater than the happiness. Plus I have this particular hobby, not a lot of close friends. I am at work near the hotel rented a house in the evening, when nothing went to Sea-Park River Park cruise, before we know that place is simply a paradise for gay, my first time also there.
I still remember, I was the toilet, always feel that someone is secretly watching me, no matter where to go he followed. I was very nervous, but excited heart but inexplicable. Then he pulled me and asked where I work, how much of the group. I should also like him, and now he is to talk to, and we talked for almost 3 hours. Later, he proposed that want to go to hotel rest. Although the fear of my heart to hear these words but still gone, there is also the point of little hope.
Had never been seen their young age, do not understand anything, of the time did not take any protective measures.
"That was your first time? After feel?"
Yes, my first time. In addition to stimulation, no special feeling.
B has its own secret codes, the most common is "What time is it?
, 19-year-old Hai-because the young are always able to attract a lot of "comrade" vision. From the first, he tasted the fun between the same sex, "then I would often go to, to get to your favorite people."
"In the past how to find? Is it at once will be able to see out?
Sun Hai smiled: "This is the 'comrades' feeling between, and can be easily detected. And go a long time, I slowly worked out a number of laws and have been the default ciphers. Such as the more common problems is 'What time is it?' If this person can answer you, it shows that he has feelings for you. If you throw off his head, then he lost interest to you, you just go on the trip. In short, no matter what you ask, we must look at each other's attitude, there is no coercion. "
Has become a frequent visitor there, Sun Hai also talked about a few fixed objects, but the vast majority are "one-night stand." "If you ask me now, a total number of people with a relationship? How many times? I really do not remember, and sometimes a very short time interval, and sometimes longer intervals. It was an individual can not understand the world, in that world, but also There is a tacit understanding with each other without leaving after the end of contact, do not ask each other any information on when a stranger walked away. Of course, there are particularly fond of each other, and later became a fixed object. "
"I know you are very painful, but can not understand that feeling."
"Oh, only the 'comrades' in order to truly understand. There are any age, the greatest or even 70-year-old. There are two things that impressed me most now: first, to see firsthand a few people work together, both to finished, the back line to keep up with, we have to sit and watch, and then I it's too normal. Is there one thing, the toilet is the best place to wait for your partner, what would be the next snow, etc. there, they are too depressed . "
C to detect AIDS, he broke down and even think about revenge
Employees of the hotel, Sea Park River Park, which is the focus of Hai-life 2. We arrived at 29 years old, how come this decade, life is it? Hai-smile: "Hunhunee, I do not know how after ten years have passed."
"AIDS in this year found it?"
To hear the word, Hai-smile screeching halt, he bowed his head talk in three months, the pain of life --
-2009 Year in March, I remember clearly, ginger sister (Qingdao Municipal Center for Disease Control and Prevention Xia Zhen Jiang, director of AIDS prevention and control, they are used to call her sister Ginger), informed I have been diagnosed as HIV infected. At that time an entire people are Mongolia, and the most fearful thing is still happening. Three months later I quit her job, to shut himself at home, kept sleeping, fall asleep do not have to think about them, and that time the collapse of the whole person, and like walking corpses scattered frame. This is three months, the decade of the various images Jiugen release movie, one scene of full-out, my first favorite people, the first place such a person, as well as the sea parked River Park homosexual world ... ...
"Do you have any regrets? A review of it?"
Say no regret is false, but the same sex is not what we own can control, which is a kind of eccentric. Why did the real regret is that so indulge yourself? Why is there no safety measures? Do you know what? During that time I am also particularly contradictions, a child will be returned to those who have relations with my people, who would think the fault, and then to retaliate against them. While also holding a phone a daze, you do not tell them, let them do it for check-ups. I finally dared to do anything.
Know the result of that period of time is the most tough living with AIDS, the most painful stage, would like to embark on will be re-opened the road to health and vice versa is also making a lot of extreme behavior. Center for Disease Control and Prevention, Qingdao, director of AIDS prevention and control of Jiuming Cao Zhen Jiang Hai-Xia became the three months she went to a dozen times, to bring food or drink, to call him to chat finally pull him back from despair .
Now Hai-are receiving drug treatment, the situation is under control with. He regularly went Jiang sister was chatting with other people living with AIDS, exchange of experiences.
"These are things that the family know?"
"How open and say to them, ah, still do not know anything. Per call, I gave my mother has said that good work is very smooth, very good health so that they can be assured. I also thought about before, almost on the to go home, listen to his family, then marry and have children, but now I had become so, I am afraid that these aspirations can not be achieved. I now only want to control a good condition, do not relapse on the line. In addition, I would like to through you a newspaper with those 'comrades' who a word must be keeping oneself clean and take safety measures. "
◎ News Background
December 1, 2009 is the first 22 AIDS Day, this year's theme is "Stop AIDS, fulfill their commitments." Qingdao Municipal Health Bureau announced that the latest data: January 2009 ~ November, Qingdao City, to discover and report on HIV / AIDS patients compared with the number in 2008 increased by 35.56% over the same period, the youngest 19 years old, maximum 53 years. Sexual transmission remains the main way of HIV transmission. Worth noting that the marked increase in male sexual contact transmission, accounting for this year, the total number of infections found in 42.62%. Qingdao for the first time since the 2005 discovery of sexually transmitted cases of the same sex since the proportion of same-sex sexual contact has been from the previous 5.26% to 42.62%, 4 years, an increase of 8 times.
At present the city free of charge a total of 39 AIDS voluntary counseling and testing points, as found in an important way for people living with HIV.
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