宋圭武观点19：打开幸福之门的阿里巴巴密码
追求幸福，是人生的永恒主题，没有例外。一个人的行为，要么是谋求当下的幸福，要么是以当下的痛苦换取未来的幸福，要么是以自己的痛苦为别人谋幸福，要么是以别人的痛苦为自己谋幸福。
关于幸福的研究文献很多。其中有一项研究认为，影响一个人幸福的最大因素是人际关系。该研究有三个结论：一是要提高幸福度，要高度重视人际关系；二是人际关系不在多，而在精，要努力提高人际关系质量；三是良好的人际关系，不仅影响你的幸福度，还影响你的大脑发育。这里人际关系包括朋友关系以及婚姻家庭关系等多方面。其中婚姻家庭关系非常重要。
确实，人际关系对幸福度很重要。因为人是活在社会中的人。人际关系不好，意味自己被社会隔离和边缘化，这自然对人的幸福度有很大影响。
当然，说人际关系是影响幸福度最重要的因素，该观点也值得商榷。可能对大多数人而言，确实人际关系很重要，但对有些人不一定，因为人各有偏好。有些人天定喜欢孤独，不喜欢热闹；有些人以对超越界的追求为最高人生目的；有些人把钱看得高于一切；有些人更看重孩子的成功；等等。如此，偏好不同，可能影响幸福度的最大因素也不同。另外，文化不同，必然最大因素也不同。文化也是一个重要的变量。
总之，影响一个人幸福度的因素是多方面的。收入、遗传、婚姻家庭、工作、宗教、性格、个人心理调节能力、认知、环境、人际关系、政治、通货膨胀等等，都会对幸福度产生影响。其中，在影响幸福的众多因素中，认知应是打开幸福之门的阿里巴巴密码。比如，同一件事，若换个角度看，往往会得到不一样的结论，自我感觉也就不一样，得到的幸福度也就不一样。
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Song Guiwu's Viewpoint 19: The Alibaba Password to Open the Door to Happiness
The pursuit of happiness is the eternal theme of life, with no exception.A person's behavior is either to seek happiness in the present, or to exchange the present pain for future happiness, or to seek happiness for others with their own pain, or to seek happiness for themselves with the pain of others. There are many research literature on happiness.One of the studies believes that the biggest factor affecting a person's happiness is interpersonal relationship.The study has three conclusions: first, to improve happiness, we should attach great importance to interpersonal relationship;second, interpersonal relationship is not much, but in the essence, we should try to improve the quality of interpersonal relationship;third, good interpersonal relationship not only affects your happiness, but also affects your brain development.Here interpersonal relationship includes friend relationship, marriage and family relationship and so on.Among them, marriage and family relationship are very important. Indeed, interpersonal relationship is very important to happiness.Because people are living in society.Bad interpersonal relationship means that they are isolated and marginalized by society, which naturally has a great impact on people's happiness.Of course, the view that interpersonal relationship is the most important factor affecting happiness is also worth discussing.Maybe for most people, interpersonal relationship is very important, but not necessarily for some people, because people have different preferences. Some people are born to like loneliness, not lively;some people to transcend the pursuit of the highest purpose of life;some people put money above everything;some people value the success of their children;and so on.So, different preferences, may affect the happiness of the biggest factors are different.In addition, different cultures, the biggest factors are different.Culture is also an important variable.In short, the factors affecting a person's happiness are multifaceted.Income, genetic, marriage and family, work, religion, personality, personal psychological adjustment ability, cognition, environment, interpersonal relationship, politics, inflation and so on, will have an impact on happiness.Among the many factors affecting happiness, cognition should be the Alibaba password to open the door to happiness.For example, the same thing, if looked at from another angle, tend to get different conclusions, feel differently, get different happiness.OK, thank you, thank you.